Austin men's talk

Dealing with your parents getting a divorce is never easy. You will have to confront a lot of new emotions, adjust to many different changes in your life, and maybe deal with conflicts and arguments between your parents. Reaching out for support when you need it and being flexible will help make the transition much easier. It may seem like the end of the world right now, but it will get better! Know that it is not your fault.  If your parents are getting divorced, it's because of issues between the two of them, not because of anything you did. Most of the time, parents choose to get divorced because they fight with each other, because their feelings about one another have changed, or because of a serious issue in the relationship, like infidelity or substance abuse. There's no reason for you to feel guilty at all! [1] You may be even more likely to blame yourself for the divorce if your parents get you involved in their conflicts or if they seem to hold it against you f...

Pregnancy is a delicate time.  A woman’s hormones are raging and she might even feel a little bit crazy.  She suffers morning sickness, she’s at the doctor all the time (especially at the end), and she’s often exhausted.  She needs her husband to help her!!  (And yes…feel free to substitute “partner” for husband, but as I’m married, I just automatically think “husband.”) So how can men help? 1) Don’t expect her to be the same Right now, she’s  not  the same.  Her body might feel out of control, especially if this is her first pregnancy.  And she can’t help it, either.  If she tells you that she just cannot stand to eat her favorite food, don’t make fun of her.  If she wants to take a nap in the middle of the afternoon, let her.  If she cries, just hold her.  She needs your support and understanding right now, rather than bewildered criticism.

1. Don't make choices out of fear:  So many times people either choose a partner or stay with someone in an unhappy relationship predominantly out of some kind of fear. Usually that fear is being alone but fears can vary widely from person to person. It's often better to be alone and wait for the right person than to make a decision out of fear. Making decisions out of fear leads to confusion, anxiety and a general feeling of something being amiss. 2. Be careful of jumping into a committed relationship right off the bat:  It can be tempting to jump into a committed relationship quickly when you find someone you have a fiery connection with. However, you don't really know that person yet and you're getting emotionally invested in someone that you don't know much about. As time progresses, you may find out things that you really don't like or that you're truly not compatible with this person. Because you invested so much emotional energy quickly, this ...

How often do women cheat? According to Bradford Wilcox, Ph.D. the director of the  National Marriage Project  at the University of Virginia 14 percent of married women cheat. In other words, the chances of a wife cheating are slim in spite of what you may read on a lot of internet sites. Wouldn’t it be interesting to know the statistics about how often wives are accused of cheating compared to the actual statistics? And one has to wonder, if husbands were more aware of the low percentage of wives who cheat would they find it easier to trust and let go of any suspicions? Sometimes a wife’s behavior can indicate cheating, just because there are indications and suspicions though does not mean there is cheating. My first piece of advice to anyone who doesn’t have definitive  proof of cheating  is to not let your suspicions get away with you and don’t make accusations

It is every husband's worst nightmare: Your wife is cheating on you. Emotions are bound to be running high, but try to stay calm when you confront your wife about her affair. You then need to consider your options, establish whether you both want to repair the marriage, and identify what lead to your wife's infidelity. Talk About It If you haven't yet confronted your wife about her infidelity, it's time to take the plunge. This will be a difficult conversation, but it's a vital first step if she has not admitted to cheating. If you have evidence of her affair, such as emails or text messages from the other man, present these to her, suggests therapist Teresa Maples in the article, "Cheating Signs: What to Do If You Suspect Your Spouse is Cheating," for Huffington Post. On the other hand, if you only have suspicions but no irrefutable proof, prepare yourself for defensiveness and denial. Remain calm and explain exactly why you suspect she is cheat...

with Augustine Chelunor Stress   is a reaction of the body to substantial or unusual demands – physical, environmental, or interpersonal. It often involves tension, irritability, high blood pressure, and depression. Stress can occur from positive and negative events and situations. Stress is a frequent precursor to depression and marital discord. It is a process, not a state. One may experience different levels of stress throughout the event. There are expected stressors such as caring for aging parents or the death of a parent. They can also be unexpected such as teen suicide or a miscarriage. Crisis  is a crucial situation that requires changes in normal patterns of behavior. A family crisis is a situation that upsets the normal functioning of the family and requires a new set of responses to the stressor. There are external crises such as hurricanes, tornados, downsizing, and military deployment. They can be internal such as alcoholism, infidelity, Alzheimer’s diseas...

At some point, most families are faced with a crisis -- be it a death, a crime, unemployment or addiction. In order to work through a crisis, a family must be willing to pull together, while still recognizing the individual needs of each family member. Let yourself grieve the loss or hardship facing your family, and encourage other family members to do so, as well. A family crisis is a turning point, and an important part of the recovery process is acknowledging your feelings, accepting that it's OK to feel upset, hurt, sad, angry or disappointed. If you are struggling to come to terms with your emotions, consider visiting a therapist or professional family counselor. Identify your support network. Friends, extended family, neighbors, colleagues and members of local support groups may be able to provide comfort and support. Resist the temptation to withdraw from others, even if your crisis is one that has you feeling ashamed. Remember that everyone goes through difficult times...