Austin men's talk

Dealing with your parents getting a divorce is never easy. You will have to confront a lot of new emotions, adjust to many different changes in your life, and maybe deal with conflicts and arguments between your parents. Reaching out for support when you need it and being flexible will help make the transition much easier. It may seem like the end of the world right now, but it will get better! Know that it is not your fault.  If your parents are getting divorced, it's because of issues between the two of them, not because of anything you did. Most of the time, parents choose to get divorced because they fight with each other, because their feelings about one another have changed, or because of a serious issue in the relationship, like infidelity or substance abuse. There's no reason for you to feel guilty at all! [1] You may be even more likely to blame yourself for the divorce if your parents get you involved in their conflicts or if they seem to hold it against you f...

Pregnancy is a delicate time.  A woman’s hormones are raging and she might even feel a little bit crazy.  She suffers morning sickness, she’s at the doctor all the time (especially at the end), and she’s often exhausted.  She needs her husband to help her!!  (And yes…feel free to substitute “partner” for husband, but as I’m married, I just automatically think “husband.”) So how can men help? 1) Don’t expect her to be the same Right now, she’s  not  the same.  Her body might feel out of control, especially if this is her first pregnancy.  And she can’t help it, either.  If she tells you that she just cannot stand to eat her favorite food, don’t make fun of her.  If she wants to take a nap in the middle of the afternoon, let her.  If she cries, just hold her.  She needs your support and understanding right now, rather than bewildered criticism.

1. Don't make choices out of fear:  So many times people either choose a partner or stay with someone in an unhappy relationship predominantly out of some kind of fear. Usually that fear is being alone but fears can vary widely from person to person. It's often better to be alone and wait for the right person than to make a decision out of fear. Making decisions out of fear leads to confusion, anxiety and a general feeling of something being amiss. 2. Be careful of jumping into a committed relationship right off the bat:  It can be tempting to jump into a committed relationship quickly when you find someone you have a fiery connection with. However, you don't really know that person yet and you're getting emotionally invested in someone that you don't know much about. As time progresses, you may find out things that you really don't like or that you're truly not compatible with this person. Because you invested so much emotional energy quickly, this ...

How often do women cheat? According to Bradford Wilcox, Ph.D. the director of the  National Marriage Project  at the University of Virginia 14 percent of married women cheat. In other words, the chances of a wife cheating are slim in spite of what you may read on a lot of internet sites. Wouldn’t it be interesting to know the statistics about how often wives are accused of cheating compared to the actual statistics? And one has to wonder, if husbands were more aware of the low percentage of wives who cheat would they find it easier to trust and let go of any suspicions? Sometimes a wife’s behavior can indicate cheating, just because there are indications and suspicions though does not mean there is cheating. My first piece of advice to anyone who doesn’t have definitive  proof of cheating  is to not let your suspicions get away with you and don’t make accusations

It is every husband's worst nightmare: Your wife is cheating on you. Emotions are bound to be running high, but try to stay calm when you confront your wife about her affair. You then need to consider your options, establish whether you both want to repair the marriage, and identify what lead to your wife's infidelity. Talk About It If you haven't yet confronted your wife about her infidelity, it's time to take the plunge. This will be a difficult conversation, but it's a vital first step if she has not admitted to cheating. If you have evidence of her affair, such as emails or text messages from the other man, present these to her, suggests therapist Teresa Maples in the article, "Cheating Signs: What to Do If You Suspect Your Spouse is Cheating," for Huffington Post. On the other hand, if you only have suspicions but no irrefutable proof, prepare yourself for defensiveness and denial. Remain calm and explain exactly why you suspect she is cheat...

with Augustine Chelunor Stress   is a reaction of the body to substantial or unusual demands – physical, environmental, or interpersonal. It often involves tension, irritability, high blood pressure, and depression. Stress can occur from positive and negative events and situations. Stress is a frequent precursor to depression and marital discord. It is a process, not a state. One may experience different levels of stress throughout the event. There are expected stressors such as caring for aging parents or the death of a parent. They can also be unexpected such as teen suicide or a miscarriage. Crisis  is a crucial situation that requires changes in normal patterns of behavior. A family crisis is a situation that upsets the normal functioning of the family and requires a new set of responses to the stressor. There are external crises such as hurricanes, tornados, downsizing, and military deployment. They can be internal such as alcoholism, infidelity, Alzheimer’s diseas...

At some point, most families are faced with a crisis -- be it a death, a crime, unemployment or addiction. In order to work through a crisis, a family must be willing to pull together, while still recognizing the individual needs of each family member. Let yourself grieve the loss or hardship facing your family, and encourage other family members to do so, as well. A family crisis is a turning point, and an important part of the recovery process is acknowledging your feelings, accepting that it's OK to feel upset, hurt, sad, angry or disappointed. If you are struggling to come to terms with your emotions, consider visiting a therapist or professional family counselor. Identify your support network. Friends, extended family, neighbors, colleagues and members of local support groups may be able to provide comfort and support. Resist the temptation to withdraw from others, even if your crisis is one that has you feeling ashamed. Remember that everyone goes through difficult times...

When two individuals choose to form a marital union, their decision has enormous power, for better or worse, over the quality of their lives. Their  marriage  can bring them infinite blessings or can usher in disappointment, strife,  anger  and  depression .   Understanding   how to fix relationship problems  therefore is key to sustaining both personal well-being and a positive partnership.  Otherwise chronic anger or it's opposite, depression, may set in. My theoretical model for explaining how depression forms in a marriage is as follows: Interactions in which one partner takes a dominant and the other a one-down or submissive role are likely to trigger depression in the partner who feels the lessor power or victim role (Heitler, 1990).   As a clinician who treats couples, I have worked for multiple decades with couples whose marriages have been “for the worse.” In most cases, changing the dominant-submissive patterns to coll...

Each marriage is unique (because each person is unique), so this list may not represent all people. The point of this post isn’t to squeeze everyone into the same mold, but rather, to stir up some meaningful dialogue between husbands and wives which will ultimately lead to stronger marriages. 8 ways a wife needs respect from her husband (in no particular order): 1. Have eyes only for her. A man shows respect for his wife by never making her feel compared to an airbrushed supermodel or a random woman passing by. Men make their wives feel safe, adored and respected when their eyes are “monogamous.” 2. Support and encourage her dreams. A man shows respect for his wife when her dreams become his priority. In little things in big things, men should encourage and support their wives to achieve their hopes and dreams.

I Went Off My Depression Meds to Get Pregnant, and This Is What Happened I’ve wanted to have children for as long as I can remember. More than any degree, any job, or any other success, I always dreamed of creating a family of my own. I envisioned my life built around the experience of motherhood — getting married, getting pregnant, raising kids, and then being loved by them in my old age. This desire for a family grew stronger as I got older, and I couldn’t wait until it was time to watch it come true.

Foundation Six: Raising Godly Children In Marriage.....Austin Briggs Jnr. How do we raise godly children in marriage? One of the reasons God brings two people together in marriage is for the purpose of raising godly children, children who look like him. Malachi 2:15 says: Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring . So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. But how is this accomplished? Obviously, the only perfect model of parenting is God the Father, and therefore, as we look at him and his Word, we can discern principles about raising godly children.

5 of the biggest myths about the ways women cheat — and why they're not true MYTH 1: Women cheat because they want to get out of their marriage Nearly every woman Walker spoke to was cheating because they loved their husband and wanted to stay dedicated to marriage. She said that as they weren't getting what they needed from their husbands, they had to look elsewhere. This didn't mean they wanted out of the marriage, they simply wanted to "outsource" their sexual needs. "Unlike what we think about women, the reality is that the women I spoke to are cheating to stay married," Walker told Business Insider. "They're not cheating for revenge, or to get out of a marriage, or get the husband to notice them through bad behaviour — they were cheating primarily for sexual pleasure and to remain married."

Posted By Austin Briggs The characteristics of a virtuous woman have been explored in religious texts and in the works of philosophers throughout the ages. While each source can vary on the exact details, there are a few common principles that most great thinkers agree on. If you are aiming to be a virtuous woman, here are a few principles you can review to get started. 1. Understand that true beauty lies within. True beauty is virtuous because true beauty develops out of good character and caring about the world. Before you consider looking virtuous, you need to look internally so that you actually become virtuous. True inner beauty and virtue go hand-in-hand. If you practice the life of a virtuous woman, you will also be a beautiful woman. Your beauty will be authentic, unique and self-expressive rather than conformist. 

The three main reasons why men are so attracted to a woman’s breasts are: It’s an obvious feminine feature. It signals that she’s ready for breeding. It’s something that we can show obvious attraction for her about. Let’s start with number 1…. 1. It’s an obvious feminine feature Men are attracted to features about a woman that make her look different from a man. The male and female bodies are very similar, with the main differences being a woman’s obvious feminine features and the differences between our genitals. Obvious feminine features include her hips, her breasts, some facial features and her genitals. When a heterosexual man sees another man, no attraction is triggered because there’s nothing to feel attracted to. It’s just a male body that is of no use to him. However, when a heterosexual man sees a woman with obvious feminine features, his sexual attraction is immediately triggered because she’s obviously a female. She is a potential mate for him to implan...

Men's Corner Not all guys love sports, but when it comes to marriage, many of us unknowingly approach it with a sports mentality. If there's one thing we've learned over the years—either from our jock days or watching too many movies that end with the winning punch, jump shot, or touchdown—it's that we need the support of a team to really succeed. And marriage is the ultimate team.It may sound trite to put it this way, but isn't the person you marry essentially your best possible teammate? I suppose it's unfair for me to speak for all men, but going off of the guys I know, I can say with confidence that most of us really do understand that sex alone isn't going to be the foundation of a lasting relationship. (Although it's pretty great.) We understand that there needs to be other layers—and we *want *those layers.

Men's Relationship Goal THE FOLLOWING ARE THE THINGS MEN LIKE IN WOMEN:-By Austin Briggs #1 A cheerful attitude The cheerful laugh or a flirty giggle of a happy, cheerful woman can melt even the hardest of manly hearts. Have a happy, cheerful personality and try to look at the happier side of life all the time. There’s something about a cheerful woman whose eyes light up with joy that draws all men to her. #2 The way she looks and dresses It’s always easier to attract attention from men when you make an effort to look good and dress well. A bright red umbrella is always a lot more attention grabbing on a rainy day amidst all the dull umbrellas, doesn’t it? Dress well and feel good about yourself. You don’t really have to try and stand out with bold, flashy colors all the time. Just dress like a perfect ten in well fitting clothes and appear confident. And yes, don’t forget that dab of perfume to leave a trail of men swooning over your fragrance as you walk ...